By Nompumelelo Nkosi
A miscarriage is the worst experience that could happen to parents. It is identified as a pregnancy that ends on its own or a spontaneous abortion. The loss of a child can lead the mother into a traumatic state. In most cases, mothers often blame themselves for the miscarriage which may lead to the end of a relationship and the hopes of planning another pregnancy.
Firstly, the loss of an unborn child is not anyone’s fault and it is a painful common act for most women to lose a child in the early stages of a pregnancy. A miscarriage happens during the first 23 weeks of the pregnancy. It may not be easy to identify the cause of the miscarriage but there are possible reasons and risk factors. In the South African Depression and Anxiety Group, Glynis Horning writes that: although 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, it’s rarely talked about and society tends to neglect the devastating psychological effects it has on both partners.
In an article living with loss, the writer continues to express that the loss of a child is beyond what people may think or see. “Miscarriage is a complicated kind of loss. It’s easy for those who haven’t experienced it to underestimate it, especially in the first trimester, when the being you’re carrying is bigger than a plum… an unborn baby can become part of our consciousness soon after conception, and the repository of our love, hopes and dreams.”
According to Pregnancy week by week, most cited references estimate that about 15% of clinically recognised pregnancies will end in miscarriage. Almost 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, with the majority occurring during the first 12 weeks. There is also a chance for you to experience a miscarriage even after a successful pregnancy.
There are different types of miscarriages, namely: Threatened miscarriage, this refers to bleeding with little or no pain. Inevitable miscarriage, at this stage the threatened miscarriage has progressed. Cramping, pain in the back and lower abdomen are amongst the symptoms. Recurrent miscarriage is the worst for couples, this means consecutive losses. When the foetus has died inside the womb and the mother isn’t aware, it is referred to a missed miscarriage. Septic miscarriage, this is caused by a previous abortion procedure where the uterus has become infected before. It is common with unsafe abortions.
Bleeding is the most common sign of a miscarriage, and it can go from light to heavy. Usually, fatal genetic problems with the unborn baby are unrelated to the mother. Causes include infections such as an imbalance of pH balance, medical conditions in the mother such as diabetes or thyroid diseases, hormone problems, immune system responses, physicals problems in the mother (such as obesity), chromosomal abnormalities, uterus abnormalities, sperm DNA fragmentation, Age (over 35), certain diseases or had more than three miscarriages. A miscarriage sometimes happens when you have a weak cervix which is call Cervix insufficiency. Meaning your cervix is not strong enough to hold a pregnancy.
There are ways that could help you to avoid a miscarriage. Exercise regularly, manage stress during your pregnancy, pay attention to your weight-make sure you don’t gain within the normal, take folic acid, avoid alcohol and smoking, eat healthy food, keep your abdomen safe, limit the intake of caffeine, avoid hazardous environments, avoid activities that may cause injury such as sports.
If you feel that something may be wrong, immediately contact your doctor. Always remember that you have plenty of support from your loved ones and there special support groups in place to help with the emotional distress.